She was pregnant and the beating went on. She was always weak and tired but she could not tell anyone what her loving husband does to her. He beat her up at every chance he got. Even the fact that she was carrying their second child did not alter the pattern. One day, after the delivery of their baby, she was beating again!!! Something turned her head that day for she picked up a coca cola bottle using all her strength; she broke it on her husband’s head!
That is the story WOMAN “A”.
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She assumed the role of the breadwinner of the family. For better for worse they say. Hubby lost his job but that didn’t deter her from doing all in her power to put food on the table for her family. By 4:30am she is up to care for the children before leaving for work at 6:00 am everyday. She would come home in the evening to prepare their dinner. The fact that her husband was in the house all day did not alter her role of cooking the dinner no matter how late she got back from work. On top of all her effort not to make her family suffer, she was constantly beating up by the love of her life. She was beating today as usual, her siblings had to phone one another to come and rescue their beloved sister in the hands of the monster called her husband. The only means they know of rescuing her is to give her husband his own taste of medicine. They beat him till he shit!
That went the story of WOMAN “B”.

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Discharged from the hospital, from an accident that nearly claimed her life. She lost members of her family in this accident. They were all in the same bus that was gutted by fire. She was the only surviving person. She left the hospital in a fairly good shape at last but still she was traumatized. She would still need to see a psychologist though she wasn’t sure how she would find or pay for one. She left for her home to begin the recovery process but her husband saw to it that she got NO rest. She was beating up the first day she got home! He ignored the neck brace on her by dishing out hot slaps on her already damaged and broken body. Alas, the neighbours could not watch this maltreatment any more. They took law into their hands and beat her sweet love till he fainted!
That was how WOMAN “C” was treated.

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“I have come to report my husband sir, he wants to kill me, see the bruises on my body from the beating” she cried to the police officer she met at the police station near her house. The police officer looked at her for a moment with no compassion reflected on his face and barked at her; “What did you do? A beg, e be your husband and this is a domestic matter, go back and resolve it between you 2”. She was dumbstruck. “So, the law cannot protect me?” She thought to herself as she turned her back on the police station. She did not live long after that. She died in the hands of her husband when she was receiving her last beating.
WOMAN D got no protection.

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On the street, she was stopped, before she could say Obama, she saw the rains of slaps baptizing her already disfigured face. She recognised her violator, her husband!!! The same beast she is being running from for Months now. “Where are my children? You left my house with my 5 children, I will kill you today”. He said to his wife as he dragged her across the street. “What did you do?” “How can you abandon our husband?” Asewo/ ashawo/ prostitute go back to your husband” “Don‘t let her escape again o, useless woman”. These are all the comforting words she got from the street sellers and passers-by.
What is now the fate of WOMAN E?

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When will these violence stop/end? When will it be told to the perpetrators and their accomplices that “THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION FOR ANY VIOLENCE COMMITTED AGAINST WOMEN?

I worry a lot about the time I resume for work, I worry about the circumstances surrounding everything. I like to be perfect; I like to put my integrity first in all I do. I like following set rules and regulations. But it’s being very difficult to keep up with my principle as far as resuming for work is concerned.

I once worked at Victoria Island and I said to myself never to work in that end of Lagos again since I leave far away from the said place. You are faced with endless traffic in the morning and same in the evening when you are going back home.

Well, I am back to the Island, this time Lagos Island. I took the job because I love it but I still get late to work!!! I am supposed to be at work 8:30 am which is fair enough but I often make it to work after 8:30am. See me see trouble o.

Care to know why? I will just describe a typical day from Monday to Friday. But before then I will like to say here that if I leave home before 6:00 am, I will get to work by 7:00 am but if I leave home by 6:30 or 7:00am I get to work after 8:30 am most time. And the big unsolvable problem is, I wake up latest by 6:00am on the dot!!! My body has being so conditioned to this that it’s being so difficult to adjust. Let’s start:

Monday:

1. Long queue at the bus stop (this takes about 20mins or more than at times)
2. Traffic; blocked road, 3^rd Mainland bridge is worse, we could be there for an hour
3. Bus won’t stop me at my desire spot at my bus stop, I have to trek a lot to get to work

Tuesday:

1. It’s Raining
2. Conductors says my bus stop should not enter, which means more time at the park
3. Flat tire on the road
4. Traffic

Wednesday:

1. Bus enters the filling station to get gas/fuel. Takes forever to get done
2. Traffic phase one before we ever reach 3^rd Mainland Bridge
3. Bus overheat
4. Traffic phase two before on 3^rd Mainland Bridge

Thursday:

It could be any of the above or road might be free

Friday:

1. Overslept!!! Hurried out of bed to make it work
2. Traffic must add to my displeasure
3. Rain might now add to my trouble
4. Etc etc

I don’t like excuses and it’s now becoming increasingly difficult for me not to have or give one. I tire. I vex, am sad. I can’t help myself!!!

I do not consider myself a good teacher but since I have something to share, I feel I have got to nonetheless. Blogging is great, getting to know how best to keep in touch with all your favourite blogs without visiting the blogs unless you want to leave a comment is greater. And being able to have all the blogs urls in a feed called RSS without forgetting any is the greatest. RSS stands for "Really Simple Syndication". It is a way to easily distribute a list of headlines, update notices, and sometimes content to a wide number of people. It is used by computer programs that organize those headlines and notices for easy reading. Visit http://rss.softwaregarden.com/aboutrss.html

Back to the issue at hand, how does one get to keep all the blogs and other interesting websites close to one’s heart? There are some tools designed to fulfil this role. I am sure a lot of us know what I am talking about, but this lesson is meant for the rest of us that is yet to know about this opportunity.

There are some tools available for bloggers to keep in touch with all blogs they read by getting regular update each time a blog is updated. This is made possible via blogline, google reader, newsreader, opera browser (to mention just a few) which will enable you subscribe to all the blogs your read

Step by Step of using an RSS Aggregator/Reader:

Step one:
(using blogline for example): Log on to www.bloglines.com and create an account:

Step Two:

Click on the feed text to your left, and when a box with “subscribe message shows up, then you type in the url of the blog you want to subscribe to

Step Three: After adding all the blogs you prefer ,which I believe will be a continuous exercise, all the blogs you subscribed to will appear in bold letters until you click on them to read. The subsequent posts of the already added blogs will be the ones in bold letter if there is a new update

Tips on keeping up with comments on different blogs visited:

Do you know you can keep track of all post comments of each blog you have visited if you left a comment? It will be nice to do this so as to know if the blogger is giving you a feedback or want to generate a discussion. Some of us are guilty of not responding to comments meant for us, which is not good enough in blogville. Anytime, you are leaving a comment, try and tick the small box in front of “email follow-up comment to (your email address) then the deed is done!!!

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